Dear lost Dad,
I write this letter to tell you thank you! Thank you for not being a part of my life. I want you to know that I’m not bitter about all my birthdays, and Christmases without you. I wouldn’t be the woman nor mother I am today if you had been there. I try my best at everything I do. I have learned family is the most important part of living and that’s my number one focus. I also focus on positivity and happiness. I value these traits about myself, and if you had been there, I might not have these outlooks as I do now. I have learned that life is a learning process but also, a gift. Maybe you just never learned these things? I am sorry for you. I also want you to know I am doing well and I don’t hate you. I am grateful for you, you gave me life. Without you, I might not appreciate the importance of my family and friends. I would do anything in this world for my friends and family. I give my heart to these people I’m close to. Some would say this leaves room for heartache and maybe it does, but I would rather experience heartache than not experience love at all. Although I have endured plenty of heartache, I wouldn’t change any of it, because this is also a part of what makes me, me. You made the decision to not be a part of my life, and I have made the decision to forgive you. I believe life throws us curve balls and problems every day, some enormous, and some minute, but it’s how we overcome these issues that make us who we are. I write this letter not only in hopes it reaches you, but for everyone else who has a parent that isn’t present. When I was young, I didn’t understand and felt that it was my fault. Now I understand. It was never my fault, it was always yours, and that’s okay. I am not saying I’m perfect, in fact I’m far from perfect. I make mistakes often, but I make sure I learn from mine. For all of you in the current situation, you’re not alone. Thank you, dad, for not being my dad.
Please share if you have been in this situation or know someone in this situation. You’re not alone and it’s not your fault. A lot of things go unnoticed in today’s world with so much craziness going on around us. I didn’t write this just for him or myself, but for everyone else too. There is light at the end of the tunnel and it is possible to overcome the heartache felt from an absent parent.